Tuesday, 26 November 2013

Besharam Buddies...



24/11/2013


Friend. Best friend. Bestest friend.
In my life so many people came to give meaning to the ‘friend’. From the day when I barely knew what relationship is all about, I had started making friend. I Still remember that day when I was in 3rd std. And I gave a speech on the topic ‘My best friend’ saying ‘Riya is my best friend...’ and as a result of it my teachers used to tease me by mimicking my words...Riya is my best...

Today I don’t even know where she is and I don’t even remember when the last time that we talked was. So, this is how evolution has taken place in my life in the matter of friendship. I remember the words from ‘3 idiots’ –school change ,uniform change’ and to more or less extent the same applies to friendship –school change ,best friend change. Till my 10th std. I used to firmly believe that there should be someone to whom you call as your best friend. A person who can sit with me on the same bench, a person who can come with me in the same tution, a person who can chit-chat with me while sharing my lunchbox during the recess, a person who can bring a sudden smile on my face by saying ‘look ,I brought biryani for you. Tumhari favourite hai na!’ showing her open luchbox.  a person who can do homework with me, a person who can stand on my side when I am stuck in a quarrel, a person who can accompany me till the washroom, a person who  can bare me when I am reading out my poems before her, a person who can tell about her secrets to me and is also eligible to hear mine, a person who can take me in a corner and tell me to do my clothes proper when they aren’t, a person who can do ‘kitti’ (Not talking to me) with me and still forget the ‘Kitti’ when i actually need her, a person with whom i don’t need to do any formal obligations, a person to whom i can call by any name ; even kutti –kamini, a person who can take away my things and may not even find it necessary to inform me, a person who ties me the best friendship belt saying me her best friend and indeed awaits to know which colored belt I have selected for her, a person who can share her silly dreams with me and also have patience to hear mine, a person will wait eagerly for her birthday just to see what I gift her, a person who will never fail to ask me ‘what did you bring for me ?’ when I go out on my summer vacation,  a person with how i can compare my marks and feel like a billion dollar –only if i am ahead of her, a person who feels my absence when i am absent in the class and says ‘Absent ma’am’ when the class teacher speaks out my while taking attendance, a person who tells ‘from now we will remain absent together’ just because she had a boring day without me by her side, a person who can scold me like a father; quarrel with me like a brother; and still love me like a mother...
As i grew up that innocence started fading, that meaning started changing, those friends started replacing and a day came when the word ‘f-r-i-e-n-d’ remain the same but the meant went totally altered. 

There are even friends who went away from me after they were in a relation or had ended up with marriage so it really made me think that...

...It seems an unwritten law of the universe that especially marriage takes precedence over friendship. Friendship has no definite rules of loyalty whereas marriage has. There should be for friendship laws, a legal pledge as well.


I can hear my mom telling me ‘You shouldn’t tell everything to your friends. It’s your age to keep yourself to yourself.”

I can hear my Prof. telling me “In the corporate world, your best friend will stab you from your back.”

When the question came to give conclusion to this article I did  cup my chin in misery as no matter as we grow up the definition of friendship changes but Still friends are friends...!  (No matter what!)



Dedicated to all my best friends. –

  • ·        Riya savjani
  • ·        Surbhi Thakar
  • ·        Raksha Tiwari
  • ·        Seles Sabastine
  • ·        Mitsu Dave
  • ·        Kinjal Bathiya
  • ·        Vishva Choksi
  • ·        Farah Memon (Farah Di, I really miss you. I hope you are happy wherever you are.)
  • ·        Palak Dhamecha
  • ·        Shvitra Patadia
  • ·        Mangi...Premangi!..

Friends. Best friends.
.Humble thanks to all of you for tolerating me for such a long time. You came in my life and went away ...and...I was never the same. Love you all.



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