I Do.

Dear Rishab,

Hey, don’t get amazed. It’s not a love letter it’s just a letter from your love! 

‘This month we are getting married’ oh! I still wonder at this fact. You know what Rishab I told mom that I am going to write a different sort of letter to you and she warned me that you will disagree to marry me after eying this letter. But still let me keep my fingers crossed and begin …

I look fair, I can play guitar, At 23 years of age I have 4 yrs of working experience with a English newspaper, I am good at writing poems, I am active at social work, I am about to publish a novel, I am good at public speaking, I have a eye catching facebook timeline…And what not! My relatives, my parents and especially my mom will tell you all such things in my praise to you but there are certain things which no one will tell you or no one can ever tell you better than I can such as…

 

·        The only achievement I have came across in cooking till date is making the rotis circular. Sweets, Pickles, Snacks, Punjabi, Chinese…well! I really don’t know to cook any such thing but I assure you that I will give my best to learn it all.

·         Wearing shots which are very shot, a sleeveless ‘T’, or a casual jeans …this is what I am used to wearing; while roaming the whole day wrapping a saree is something new to me. No matter I am excited to flaunt my well shaped waist in it!

·        I am a big ‘Gulzar’ fan, and you just thought ‘Gulzar’ is the name of a Muslim festival! And I, I don’t even know what’s your favorite and what’s not! Let me sing ‘Kashmir tu , main Kanniyakumari!’

·        I am damn good at spending money and exactly opposite at calculating my expenses. Ma-in-law was calling me by the name ‘ Ghar-ki-Laxmi’. And I doubt whether I and ‘ Laxmi’ will ever be a good companion!

·         I have a MBA degree on my side and there are several companies eager to take me but I actually doubt my home managing skills. Scared to wear the ‘Home manager’s’ cap.

·         Cat fight or Corporate Politics…I  can beat any beast coming on my way but the Kitchen Politics ‘Derani- Jethani’ conflicts …I don’t have slightest of idea regarding  handling any of them.

·         A tight slap, Gujarati slang, English cursing words …Yeah! I have used all of them if a boy ever tries to tease me but from now …you will invade my body and soul.  I know it gives pleasure but what if it hurts me?! Let me close my eyes! Unimaginable! 

·         You have permitted me for doing job. But I doubt as whether I will be able to manage office and house both or will I end up performing poor in both of them?!

·        Questions on my virginity, Doubts regarding my past, my whats app chats, my long phone calls, my facebook contacts, my male friends…Oh! As a husband you may censor all of them but there is only one plea from my side: Do allow me to prove myself as a loyal wife. Few talks, few friends or few chats can never be parameters to judge my character.

·        I know how to convince my boss, or to my readers but I seriously have no idea how to impress ma-in-law...I hope she likes a natural, real ‘me’. Ya! I am good at acting on stage but acting before sasu maa is not a good idea, I guess.

·        I am a silly girl, who is careless, who lives in her own world, to whom her mother still advices to brush her teethes well! And that girl is marrying you!!! So please give her time to take the character of a ‘Mature wife’ from an ‘Innocent Immature girl’.

·        Watching movies, gyming, reading novels, writing articles, singing…all were the inevitable elements of my day but I doubt if there will be any of them existing with me after I get married. My mom always says ‘Mind well! Don’t read those story books after getting married or else your in-laws will send you back!’ God bless me!!

·        Neither I am ‘tulsi’ of ‘Kyoki saas bhi kahbi…or ‘Parvati’ of ‘Kahani ghar ghar ki’ and nor I wish to be so. I am a simple girl who feels, who loves, who cares, who cries, who feels jealous, who gets angry or the one who can even fight for her rights.

·        I know your family (Oops! Our family!) Follows strict ‘Vaishnavism’ even my family is the same. But I am not the same! Frankly speaking, muttering all those Sanskrit sholks or sitting before an idol for hours is not my idea of worship. I believe in doing good deeds and helping the society in whichever way I can. And I am happy with my way.

·         I am good at debating but I lack social skills.  So, Will I be able to woo the guests who come to meet, or say come to judge the newlywed ‘Bahu’ ?!

After reading all these, you might have got the confirmation that I am a born pessimist but I wanted to be transparent on my part. Even before taking insurance we read the terms and conditions quite a good number of times then why not the same in marriage! I wasn’t willing to keep asterisk or hidden conditions with the one I am going to grow old with!

I am damn scared Rishabb..! But inspite of all such worries and fears...do u know why am I marrying you...because I LOVE YOU sooooo…much, RISHAB! And I know that you will be holding my hand to help me overcome such fears...In my fears lies yours and in my victory over them lies your victory…

So, the day when I will be asked…

Who needs marriage?

I will proudly say...I do. I do. I do.!

Eternally yours,

Anita

P.S.: kisses and cuddles…??! Oh! Pati-dev! Let’s save them for our ‘Suhagraat’!’

 

From Janvi’s honey bag:

Are soul and substance, depth and commitment ceased to matter in marriage? …NO!!!

Let’s be transparent when the matter comes of marriage as faking before it leads to a lifetime of sorry. We don’t feel shy in showcasing our naked body to our life partner than why get scared in showing our naked soul??

And Problems! Oh! The only place where there are no problems is the Graveyard.